I Am the Sole Master of My Life!

Are you really sure about that? Here an introspective test to measure if you really control your life or whether, instead, you sabotage your chances of success. Relax and be relaxed.

Think carefully about each question and answer by Yes or No as honestly as possible, with explanations requested. Feel free to expand your answers.

You can copy and paste this psychological test into a Word document.

1. Do you often think of projecting the image of a superficial and lazy person that cannot be taken seriously?

2. How often do you pronounce words or judgments about persons or events that you regret on?

3. When people talk about you, do they say that you are a person whining, dissatisfied and complains always for nothing?

4. Do you feel that you do not as much as others? Whether you are unworthy to succeed or to find soul mate? .

5. How often do you break your promises without any valid reason?

6. Do you often feel that people are not interested in your ideas or opinions?

7. Are you obsessed with your debts to neglect your family and friends?

8. Do you spend most of your free time to chat everything and anything, watching television or reading tabloids?

9. Do you need to work very hard to keep your financial status quo?

10. Procrastination is your motto?

11. When you are injured by the decision of a person, do you handle the situation by meeting this person?

12. When others make mistakes, are you the kind to take advantage of the situation and to denigrate them ?

13. Are you having a hard time saying No, same when you are overwhelmed or tired?

14. Do you often experience difficulty in making a decision for fear of making mistakes or disappoint others?

15. Do you tend to withdraw into yourself when instead you fail to recognize your mistake and continue? .

If you have answered Yes to several of these questions maybe you still have much work to do on your own especially as regards self-confidence and self esteem. Likely that the image you project, consciously or unconsciously, is not very flattering.

So it is high time that you change your attitude: have more respect for yourself and be proud of what you are now. In return, respect others and do not take advantage of their weaknesses.

If many of your responses are motivated by fear, have more confidence in life and say every day: Today, I am the sole master of my Life!

As always, your comments are always very useful to continuously improve the quality of this site.

Jocelyne Choquette

Speaker, coach and trainer

Personal growth and motivation

jocelyne.choquette@sympatico.ca

514. 336. 7441

 

Forrest Gump: A Hero’s Heart.

Forrest Gump is an American cult not only for his astonishing actors like Tom Hanks, Gary Sinise, Robin Wright Penn, Sally Fields, but also especially for its values conveyed.

Forrest is a slow side boy who succeeds despite the fact that others think he’s just an idiot. 
 When he receives the message from his dying mother Forrest does not arise questions and procrastinates with himself. « Is this the good time? I’m too busy. She exaggerates, she wants my attention ». No, he jumps into the water and immediately go with it.

During the Vietnam War, through a terrible confrontation, he saved all his comrades and password literally in the firing of shells and bullets. He stills the dominant impulse of the heart, never mind or the intellectual part. Too often we may think to prevent action. Forrest Gump is very aware that he is not as quick-witted as the others but he continues his goal tirelessly and he is faithful in his love and his friendships.

He becomes a multimillionaire because he always pursues his passion of the moment, to realize the desire of his friend Bubba, who died in action: investing in a shrimp boat, and sell shrimps. He accepts the back and friendship of his superior, Lieutenant Dan Taylor, who becomes his business partner, with joy and trust of a little boy. Forrest’s heart and feelings are pure and spontaneous like a child. 
 
When his beloved girl friend Jennifer told him about their son, Forrest accepted without flinching. When she told him about her fatal illness, Forrest spontaneously offered to keep and care home her so that she may die in dignity.

Forrest may seem to act like a machine.  It’s always his heart that leads. He overcomes all obstacles and finds joy everywhere with everyone. He’s a happy soul.    Forrest drags not his heart of resentment, bitterness or desire for revenge. He is also a grateful man; he gives half his fortune to his friend’s mother killed in action.   Moreover, most important, Forrest is always in action. He still lives in the present moment. He never procrastinates.

As we get older, many people become greedy, bitter, sour as if they accused Life and others for their loneliness, their failures and mediocrity.  Happiness is a fragile flower that needs to be nourished and vitalized every day.

Forrest Gump likes to repeat: “My mama always said life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re going to get. ”

As always, your comments are always very useful to continuously improve the quality of this site.

Jocelyne Choquette

I Hate Money !!!

The story of Frances is a very instructive example of a person who has very difficult relations with money. Conversations about money always make her angry and critically unceasingly wealthy people. She is a brilliant woman but very emotional and has a controlling and uncompromising character. When I talk with her about the power of the subconscious mind, she treated me naive and dreamy with an air of vexation and condescending.

It was during a conversation on a web European forum in 2003 that Frances had a virtual meeting that would change her life. A devotee of history and secret societies for 25 years, this 45 year old woman, living on small incomes, fell in love with a man called great historian, industrial and multi-millionaire owner of an ancestral estate in Northern France. He telephoned her several times, day and night, often seems pasty and to justify his condition, explaining that he suffered from chronic fatigue.

Six months later, at the invitation of this man who called himself bishop of a church dating back to the early Druids esoteric, Frances visits her virtual lover who captivates her with its much esoteric knowledge of history. Her crazy and absolute love tolerates everything. She explained me that when you’re on vacation, this gives us the right to drink like a fish. Moreover, her boyfriend of a pending divorce tumultuous begs her to come live with him.   She also met close friends of the gentleman who calls her their little sister who plays in Canada and on all scales, that they are both a wonderful couple. Obsessed with secret societies and fraternities, she was initiated at the speed of light in the higher ranks of an obscure order.

A year later, Frances, again on the insistence of her strange lover decides to join the fold and luggage. She canceled her lease, stored all furniture, kisses her two children (young adult leaders), bought on credit for airfare and flew with the man of her life. Then I advised her to demand of this supposed multimillionaire, that he, at least, paid for her plane ticket and the troubles. Furious, she said she was not a beggar woman and her boyfriend owed her nothing…

A week after her arrival, this man revealed a monster drummer women, drunken and unscrupulous liar. He stole her passport and plane ticket, on the pretext that he wanted her to furnish him the documents, about the secret history of a fraternity. She never regained her papers only by her executioner’s daughter, herself a victim of paternal pangs.

She must then be saved in disaster. Without money, without friends, she sleeps outside under the stars in Paris and returned to Quebec, terrified and in debt of over ten thousand dollars. Finally, three months later, her ex-boyfriend died under mysterious circumstances and left her nothing. At last, she is still paying the interest on that debt.

As always, your comments are always very useful to continuously improve the quality of this site.

Jocelyne Choquette

Speaker, coach and trainer

Self-development and motivation